If you want to attract an empowered masculine man without feeling fake or losing yourself, your feminine power is you secret tool. These feminine behaviors men love aren't complicated or mysterious. They're simple, practical ways to show up that make healthy masculine men go absolutely crazy for you.
If feminine energy feels vague and elusive to you, if you have no idea how and where to start implementing it, you're going to love what you're about to learn. These five feminine behaviors are practical, simple, and bound to transform how men respond to you.
Let me show you exactly what makes a woman irresistible to men.
What Is Feminine Energy in Dating?
As a dating and relationship coach who has helped thousands of amazing, smart, successful women find and keep amazing love for over a decade, I've learned something crucial: feminine energy that attracts men isn't about being weak or dependent.
It's about creating balance. It's about understanding polarity in relationships. When you can embody both your powerful professional side AND your soft feminine side, you become magnetic to quality masculine men.
The problem is many high-achieving women unconsciously operate in masculine energy even in their romantic lives. We over-function, control, and essentially do all the work. This kills attraction and polarity.
The solution is learning these specific feminine behaviors that drive men wild with desire, practical strategies you can implement right away.
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Feminine Behavior #1: Smile and Be Warm
This sounds really simple, but it is so important. And so often when women like a guy, they forget all about doing this in his presence.
The first feminine behavior that drives men crazy is smiling.
I know, I know. It sounds almost too simple, right? But trust me when I say I've helped thousands of women by now doing this for over a decade, and so many women forget to embody this behavior especially around a guy they like.
Why Smiling Is One of the Most Powerful Feminine Behaviors
Smiling is one of those soft feminine behaviors that makes a man feel like:
- You're approachable
- It's safe to pursue you
- You will not bite if he makes the pursuit
Girl, give up that poker emotionless face and show that smile. Make him feel like it's okay, it's safe to pursue you, to come after you, to chase you, to be in your company. It is truly one of the easiest things you can do to be attractive to empowered masculine men.
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The Science Behind Smiling and Attraction
In fact, there are studies that show that people of the opposite sex find that women who smile in general are more attractive than women who have poker resting faces.
This is how to stop being intimidating to men and how to make men feel safe to approach you. Your warm, genuine smile communicates openness and receptivity, two qualities that masculine men find incredibly attractive.
If you want to know how to be more approachable to men, start with this simple shift. It's one of the best feminine energy dating tips you'll ever receive.
Feminine Behavior #2: Show Genuine Appreciation
The second feminine behavior that drives men crazy is appreciation. Again, one of those things that we forget to do especially when we like somebody.
It is natural to forget certain behaviors when they are not your second nature. Download my Feminine Energy Checklist, it will make it easy to always remember what's important and embody your feminine energy with ease.
When we are strong, successful women, it is so easy to just sort of keep talking in that business language even on dates and even when you're around men. The guy will make all this effort and he'll book this amazing restaurant for you, and then all we will say at the end of it is, “Thank you, that was nice.”
We're living in a society running on a masculine paradigm where we're told every day that giving is good, that you're a good person if you give to others and sacrifice yourself. Women are especially praised for being over-givers and sacrificing their welfare, time, and energy for other people.
However, you are a high value woman when you understand the power and the art of receiving, especially in the romantic context.
As a high value woman, you should be able to use your empowered masculine energy in your career and work life, but when it comes to your love life, dating, and being in a partnership with your man, you want to use feminine energy and learn the art of receiving.
My relationship coaching for women programs are so powerful when it comes to issues like these. They give you all the scripts, all the strategies, methodologies, and mindsets that you need to adopt and display if you desire to attract a healthy masculine man and keep him in your life. You can find hundreds of success stories from my clients:
Inside my coaching program Elevate, we teach you how to handle various situations like this. You are not alone in going through this and ensure you get the best possible guidance. When we work with clients, we ensure the woman communicates in a high-value way.
Why Masculine Men Crave Your Appreciation
The masculine is really craving for the feminine to appreciate, for the feminine to show emotion that the masculine is doing a good job.
Trust me, no empowered masculine man will just blindly keep pursuing a woman where he feels like he has no chance of winning with her. Appreciating and complimenting men especially for the effort that they're making for you is one of the best ways to make a man feel like he can win with you and that he has a chance to succeed with you.
How to Show Appreciation Without Feeling Too Eager
If you've been a little bit of a poker resting face and not really been complimenting and appreciating men, don't judge yourself, I used to be the same way.
I was so scared of coming across as too eager or too miss smitten kitty, eager beaver that I used to artificially hold myself back. I had these fear voices in my head that would say, “Don't over appreciate him, he'll think nobody ever has done something good for you.”
I think these are really sad ways of thinking because it really comes from our fear mind and our ego. It doesn't come from the heart.
When somebody is doing something good for you, you should have absolutely no hesitations in open heartedly complimenting and appreciating.
This is how to show appreciation to men in dating in a way that feels authentic and creates genuine connection. So if you're not already doing this, I highly recommend appreciating men for their efforts. It makes them feel like they can win with you, they have a chance with you. And that is the best way also for them to keep pursuing you while feeling crazy about you.
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Feminine Behavior #3: Be a Great Listener
The third feminine behavior that drives men wild and I'm talking about high calibre, empowered masculine men is listening.
Listening is one of the most amazing feminine behaviors that you can exhibit on your dates and that drives men crazy.
Why Listening Is Such a Powerful Feminine Energy Skill
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Let's face it, empowered masculine men want to show up on dates and they want to audition for you and they want to impress you. When you can be a good listener, they feel like:
- They're being seen
- They're being understood
- They're being accepted in your presence
They don't feel that competitive element with you that sometimes when strong and successful women show up on dates and they're all about displaying their achievements and displaying how good they are at work and the money they make, that can bring up that competitive spirit between the man and the woman, which of course is not intimacy or romance fostering.
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For the High-Achieving Woman Who Feels Triggered
Now, if this triggers you and you're a smart, successful woman, I totally get it because I used to be triggered by such messages immensely, almost 11 years ago when I was single myself.
As smart, successful women, we tend to relate a lot of our identity with what we achieve at work and the money we make and the people we help. And all of that is awesome.
However, what really changed my perspective and helped me embrace the feminine art of listening on dates, more than talking, talking, talking and trying to show how great I am was when I understood that romance is about heart connection. Romance is about vulnerability. Romance is about polarity.
A man in a masculine energy and a woman embodied in her feminine coming together, creating that romantic spark that has literally nothing to do with what he's doing at work or what you are doing at work. It has everything to do with feeling seen, feeling heard, feeling understood.
How to Act Feminine Without Feeling Fake
So if you can be that feminine partner, or you can be the feminine embodied woman who can listen to what the masculine is sharing, you create this incredible experience for men.
This does not mean that you don't get to ever speak about your achievements, or you don't get to be proud of what you do. But this is about understanding that instead of showing up in performance energy on dates and trying to show how amazing you are, try next time to listen to the masculine, and then come back and report if he asked you out for a date or not.
My bet is that if he's an empowered masculine man, he's totally going to love being around you, feel the softness of your energy, and he's going to ask you out again.
This is how to attract masculine men naturally, by creating space for them to pursue and impress you.
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Feminine Behavior #4: Use Open Body Language
The fourth feminine energy behavior that drives men crazy is open body language.
Ideally on dates, what you don't want to do is sit with your arms crossed in front of your shoulders. Don't have that bitch face, smile, be warm, make eye contact.
What Feminine Body Language Looks Like
Feminine body language is all about having an empathetic, open hearted, energetic stance, which means that you're safe in my company. I won't judge you. If your jokes are funny, I smile. If you say something vulnerable, I will not make you feel embarrassed about yourself.
So all of this is open hearted body language. It can also include a little bit of touch sometimes.
Of course, we always want to be authentic. So nothing of what I'm teaching you has to be artificially done. But this is about letting your natural feminine responses flow through you when you find something genuinely funny or something genuinely makes you laugh.
How to Use Feminine Body Language on Dates
Open, warm feminine body language means:
- Not holding yourself back
- Showing your humanness
- Showing your sweetness
- Showing your happiness
All of that embodies the feminine body language openness, and it's very attractive to men.
This is how to be playful and flirty in a feminine way and how to be soft, warm and feminine around men without forcing anything or feeling fake.
Feminine Behavior #5: Embrace Your Playfulness
Now we're at feminine behavior number five that drives men crazy. And as I told you, this one is the stickiest one for most women that I work with inside Elevate, which is my six months long group coaching program, where I help amazing, smart, successful women like you attract an amazing man.
I'm very good at what I do. I've helped over 900 women by now, just the recorded numbers, real numbers are much more than this, attract amazing, empowered men. So you can trust I know a thing or two about helping you succeed at this aspect of your life.
Feminine behavior number five that drives men crazy is playfulness.
Why High-Achieving Women Struggle With Playfulness
Let's face it, everyday life can make us feel heavy and dense. And especially if you're a single mom with responsibility of your kids, especially if you're a high achiever, boss babe, doing a lot of things, juggling a lot of things, it is so easy to get dense in your energy and to be all in your head.
When you show up on dates, instead of being in your playful feminine energy, what you'll often find is that you're still feeling heavy, you're still feeling tired, you're still in your head. Maybe you're feeling body conscious, maybe you're feeling self conscious. And maybe you show up on the dates, but you're like asking very interview type questions. Everything feels really formal.
How to Be Playful and Connect From Your Heart
The best way to break the ice and to really get out of the masculine head and to get into playful energy is to really think about your little version of yourself. Think about your four year old self or the seven year old version of you and see how you can bring the little girl and her playfulness in how you interact with men.
I can promise you this is one of the most potent feminine energy experiences that you can give a man, which is all about like not being self conscious, not trying so hard to look successful, smart, intelligent. You're already all of those things, you don't have to try hard to look those things.
But yes, embodying your heart and embodying your feminine energy through your playfulness is one of the strongest, most powerful experiences you can give an empowered masculine man around you.
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Practical Ways to Channel Playfulness
So how do you be playful?
- Be silly sometimes
- Be sarcastic sometimes
- Give him a challenge
- Talk about silly things like the cucumber in the drink, versus heavy intelligent topics
See if you can relate with men at that human, fun, silly level, because trust me, it is so authentic. And it is so hard to find in a world where women put so much pressure on themselves to be perfect and have the perfect bodies and look the perfect way.
What Men Are Really Craving
Men are craving, specifically the masculine empowered man is craving for the woman who can bravely embody her feminine, her silliness, her sweetness, her playfulness, and channel it fearlessly on dates and in her interactions with men.
This is how you can make a man chase you with feminine energy by being the woman who isn't afraid to be real, warm, and playfully engaging. These five feminine behaviors smiling, appreciating, listening, using open body language, and embracing playfulness are practical ways you can start showing up more in your feminine to attract masculine empowered men.
These behaviors are bound to make any quality man go crazy for you.
Becoming a Feminine Queen TODAY
If you're ready to dive deeper into these concepts and completely transform how you show up in love, I'd love to support you. Through my best relationship and dating coaching methodology, I've helped countless women create the passionate, devoted partnerships they've always dreamed of.
The journey begins with my comprehensive Feminine Energy Checklist, a practical guide that will help you embody these principles daily and watch your relationship transform before your eyes. This feminine energy checklist contains 35 powerful reminders and practices that will help you show up as your most magnetic, irresistible self.
If you're looking for the best relationship coach for women or wondering which coach has the most results for attracting a loving relationship, I invite you to check out the thousands of success stories, marriages, and proposals emerging from my programs.
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What Behaviors Attract Masculine Men Naturally?
These five behaviors work because they create polarity. When you embody feminine energy through smiling, appreciating, listening, open body language, and playfulness you naturally invite masculine energy to meet you there.
You're not chasing or controlling. You're not over-functioning or managing. You're simply being your most authentic, feminine self—and that's absolutely irresistible to quality masculine men.
You Were Meant to Receive Love Abundantly
Start with just one behavior this week. Maybe it's smiling more warmly. Maybe it's genuinely appreciating a man's efforts. Maybe it's being a better listener on your next date.
Watch what happens when you stop performing and start being. Watch how men lean in, pursue harder, and become genuinely captivated by your presence.
Because darling, you weren't meant to chase love, you were meant to receive it, abundantly and beautifully.
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Here's to feeling powerful and strong in your love life.
About the Author:
Sami Wunder is a leading dating and relationship coach specializing in women's relationship coaching and helping high-achieving women create lasting love. Through her online relationship coaching programs and relationship coaching for singles, she has guided over 19,000 women to find and keep extraordinary relationships with emotionally available, masculine men.