You feel like you're doing all the work in your relationships. You wonder why the passion has faded, even though you're giving everything you have. You're a successful woman who feels more like a roommate than a romantic partner. If this sounds familiar, then this article will change everything for you.
Whether you're single and looking to attract an empowered man or already in a relationship, these five high value woman traits have nothing to do with your relationship status and everything to do with how you show up in dating and romantic relationships. When you demonstrate your worth, emotional maturity, and capacity for love through these feminine energy traits, you become magnetic to masculine men who want to pursue, provide, and prioritize your happiness.
What Makes a Woman High Value?
Before we dive into the high value woman traits, let me explain what feminine energy actually means. Many of my high achieving women clients initially resist this concept, worrying it means they have to become someone they're not or dim their professional brilliance.
Here's the truth: embracing your feminine energy has nothing to do with becoming less successful. It's about creating balance and allowing your natural receptive, flowing, being energy to complement your masculine doing energy.
After working with over 19,000 women through my online relationship coaching programs, I've learned this: feminine and masculine energy dynamics are absolutely crucial for maintaining attraction and polarity in long-term partnerships. When these energies become imbalanced, relationships start feeling more like roommate situations than passionate love connections.
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Understanding Feminine Energy vs Masculine Energy
In healthy relationships, polarity creates attraction. When both partners operate primarily in masculine energy, the romantic and sexual tension dissolves. This is exactly what happens to many high-achieving women in relationships: we become so good at managing, organizing, and controlling that we forget how to simply be and receive.
As a relationship and dating coach who works with smart successful women, I've seen this pattern repeatedly: high-value women unconsciously operate in masculine energy in their love lives, which kills polarity and passion.
The solution is learning these five feminine energy traits that will make you magnetic to empowered masculine men.
Trait #1: She Never Chases Anything That Isn't Moving Toward Her
This is the foundation of feminine energy in dating. A high value woman doesn't chase men, convince partners to love her, or run after validation. She is actually a magnet for what she wants to attract.
One of the most powerful feminine traits men love is when you never chase any man or your partner for attention or validation, especially if it's not flowing toward you effortlessly. This trait is going to make you magnetic because what you ultimately want is your partner to come toward you, give you time and attention, tell you you're beautiful, and initiate physical intimacy, but the way to get that is not to chase, nag, or run after it.
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How to Stop Chasing Men and Be More Feminine
If you're single and dating:
- Don't double text men who haven't responded
- Play the “ping pong” approach: he sends a message, you send a message; he calls, you call back
- Never outdo a man with your energy
- Definitely never get in that pursuit zone
If you're in a relationship:
- Don't beg your man for attention
- Don't nag him about why he doesn't say hello, give you attention, or make love to you
- Stop chasing that which is not moving toward you
When you stop chasing, you create space for him to step into his natural masculine role as the pursuer. You become the woman who brings it in, rather than the woman who runs after it.
Trait #2: She Masters the Art of Receiving
We're living in a society running on a masculine paradigm where we're told every day that giving is good, that you're a good person if you give to others and sacrifice yourself. Women are especially praised for being over-givers and sacrificing their welfare, time, and energy for other people.
However, you are a high value woman when you understand the power and the art of receiving, especially in the romantic context.
As a high value woman, you should be able to use your empowered masculine energy in your career and work life, but when it comes to your love life, dating, and being in a partnership with your man, you want to use feminine energy and learn the art of receiving.
My relationship coaching for women programs are so powerful when it comes to issues like these. They give you all the scripts, all the strategies, methodologies, and mindsets that you need to adopt and display if you desire to attract a healthy masculine man and keep him in your life. You can find hundreds of success stories from my clients:
Inside my coaching program Elevate, we teach you how to handle various situations like this. You are not alone in going through this and ensure you get the best possible guidance. When we work with clients, we ensure the woman communicates in a high-value way.
How to Receive From Men
The art of receiving is truly an art, and it's so missing in today's world. We're all getting our dopamine hit from giving to others, but we haven't cultivated the muscle of being able to receive.
You want to be able to receive from men in these ways:
- Receive compliments gracefully – When a man gives you a compliment, say “thank you” instead of “oh but I didn't wash my hair today” or “oh but my dress has a spot here”
- Receive any goodness coming your way – Let it in without deflecting
- Let men do favors for you – Let them open the door for you, pull the chair, open the bottle in the restaurant, pour the wine, pay the bill, drive you home
- Just let them, let them, let them
In my own marriage, I let my husband bring me tea in the morning, drive me to the airport, and carry my bags. The high value woman has cultivated the art of receiving from men because she has cultivated trust in the masculine, that the masculine wants to give to you. You have to cultivate the muscle of feminine receiving so that everything the masculine energy wants to give you, you are able to gladly receive.
Trait #3: She Shows Interest Without Coming Across as Too Obvious
So often in the dating world and relationship coaching world, there's conflicting advice being offered to women: “play games,” “play hard to get,” “don't show him you're interested,” or in partnerships, “don't over lean into him, he should be doing all the work.”I honestly think this is immature advice. It doesn't come from a flowing, authentic space.
The third high value woman trait is this: she's not afraid to show interest, she's not afraid to acknowledge that she likes her partner or that a partner does a great job, and she's not afraid to flirt with the man she likes.
How to Show Interest in a Man Without Looking Desperate
The high value woman knows that just like she likes to feel seen, acknowledged, and desired by a man, a healthy man loves that too. He also loves to feel desired and appreciated. So she has developed a positive relationship with the art of showing interest, flirting, and appreciating if she's in a long-term relationship.
There's a lot of fear mongering and fear advice on the internet showing women not to show interest and don't be too eager. Of course, don't be too eager beaver, but there's a difference between being too eager versus being a woman who can let a man in, let him know “this feels good,” and appreciate him for all the good things he's doing so that he keeps coming for her and showing that interest.
This is equally valid for women in relationships. Show healthy appreciation for your partner. You can never go wrong with this.
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Trait #4: She Practices Healthy Vulnerability
Remember not chasing and being a magnet for male attention is one of the ways you can be a magnet for empowered masculine energy, when you learn the art of healthy vulnerability.
Notice I say healthy vulnerability because there's a lot of advice on the internet that just tells you to be vulnerable, and then it can have a bad impact on your relationship when you share every feeling with your partner and he's dying under the load of your feelings, or when you prematurely share stuff in early dating with men who haven't earned your trust enough.
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How to Be Vulnerable in a Healthy Way With Men
Healthy vulnerability is vulnerability where you allow yourself to be seen as imperfect by men, but you know how to pace it. It's not showing up in a t-shirt on the first date because “you're vulnerable.” It's more like being okay with being imperfect, like having lipstick spread on your chin while eating and the man saying “you've got something here,” and then not getting hyper embarrassed or self-judgy, but just going “oh okay oops,” wiping it, and coming back to your authentic self.
Developing the art of healthy vulnerability, being able to show your emotions in a balanced way to men is so juicy and so attractive to empowered masculine men.
Healthy vulnerability is very magnetic to men. Men love moving toward women who can embrace their emotions, be okay with being who they are, be imperfect, and have healthy boundaries.
Trait #5: She Has Healthy Boundaries
We just spoke about healthy vulnerability being magnetic to men. Now let's talk about the fifth feminine high value woman trait: having healthy boundaries.
Healthy boundaries is all about demonstrating that you value yourself, demonstrating that you have standards, demonstrating that you don't take BS from anybody, demonstrating that you have the courage to say no and the courage to ask for what you want.
How to Set Healthy Boundaries With Men
This sounds basic, but I can tell you that every day in my career as a relationship coach for high achieving women, I come across amazing women who are doing so well in their businesses and careers, yet when it comes to dating or their private marriages and relationships, these women have a very hard time saying no, drawing a boundary, looking after themselves, and advocating for their needs.
Somewhere deep down they have learned to be the good girl, the nice girl. They have a fear of conflict, don't want to rock the boat, and don't want to be too demanding or too high maintenance.
If any of that is going on for you, focusing on this trait of being a high value woman with healthy boundaries is going to be one of the needle movers in your dating and relationship elevation journey. This trait is an absolute must-have.
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Why Men Chase High Value Women
When successful women learn how to activate their feminine energy, they find themselves in passion-filled relationships where men pursue, provide, and prioritize their woman's happiness. The secret isn't changing him, it's mastering feminine vs masculine energy dynamics that create irresistible attraction.
If you want your man to be romantic with you, to care deeply for you, to plan quality dates, and come after you in the bedroom with hot desire, remember: feminine energy in relationships is the key to awakening his masculine romantic instincts.
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Becoming a Feminine Queen TODAY
If you're ready to dive deeper into these concepts and completely transform how you show up in love, I'd love to support you. Through my best relationship and dating coaching methodology, I've helped countless women create the passionate, devoted partnerships they've always dreamed of.
The journey begins with my comprehensive Feminine Energy Checklist, a practical guide that will help you embody these principles daily and watch your relationship transform before your eyes. This feminine energy checklist contains 35 powerful reminders and practices that will help you show up as your most magnetic, irresistible self.
If you're looking for the best relationship coach for women or wondering which coach has the most results for attracting a loving relationship, I invite you to check out the thousands of success stories, marriages, and proposals emerging from my programs.
My strategies are practical and straightforward to implement versus having to meditate for 40 minutes or listen to long theoretical outdated lectures on feminine energy.
Download your Feminine Energy Checklist today and start experiencing the joy of being truly cherished and desired by your man.
You Were Meant to Receive Love Abundantly
Remember, the secret to feminine magnetism lies in understanding that you can attract what you want by up-leveling your vibrational frequency and embodying these seven feminine energy practices.
Ask yourself daily: How can I feel more positive emotion in my everyday life? Find the good in yourself and understand that feminine energy is all about this internally focused energy, which is appreciative, self-loving, self-uplifting, self-nurturing.
When you focus on creating this energy within yourself, you will see that the outcomes you attract in your life are going to enhance.
Because darling, you weren't meant to beg for love. You were meant to receive it, abundantly and beautifully.
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Here's to feeling powerful and strong in your love life.
About the Author:
Sami Wunder is a leading dating and relationship coach specializing in women's relationship coaching and helping high-achieving women create lasting love. Through her online relationship coaching programs and relationship coaching for singles, she has guided over 19,000 women to find and keep extraordinary relationships with emotionally available, masculine men.