Today, I will be sharing with you a very personal experience from my own marriage, as a way to exemplify how to build emotional attraction with men.
Some time ago, hubby and I had a little “energetic” disturbance.
I had come online promising him that my Facebook livestream will be over in 10 mins and then we can go out for the dinner date he had planned for us.
However, I ended up spending 40 mins here!!!
Poor hubby, ready in fab clothes, waited and waited.
When I got off the call, I felt great after having connected with you all, but he felt pissed.
“I’ve been waiting 45 mins honey. That wasn’t our plan.”
And instead of just listening to him (I’d have definitely felt pissed if he had done that to me), instead of recognizing that I had accidentally not respected the promise I had made to him…
… I could feel myself wanting to go immediately into the defense mode.
I wanted to say “But I can’t leave my ladies asking questions” or “You could just be happy for me instead of complaining about the time.”
Thanks to the work I do and teach you divas – I didn’t say any of that, and I took a deep breath instead.
I recognized immediately that these were my demons barking at me. He was just being honest at his disappointment and wanted to be heard, but my system heard it as “blame”.
You see, when we’re emotionally triggered, we want to say all sorts of things and coming from that place of act / react doesn’t serve love….
I told him I needed to take a moment to process what he just said and I retreated into the bedroom to get a moment off by myself. I did a body/feelings tracking tool on myself.
30 mins passed – I fell asleep.
Then something amazing happened.
This wonderful man came in, with a bowl of fruit and yogurt, saying “Honey, you haven’t eaten anything since lunch. You need to eat this now. It’s my offering to my Goddess. And can we please resolve these bad feelings so that I can have my smiling Sami back and we can go to our dinner date?”
In that instant, my heart just melted.
All the anger, all the demons, all the resentment, all the “imagined” confusion, “imagined” blame disappeared.
We kissed, we talked and he sorted it out for us. The date felt amazing – like with a revived fire.
So why do I share this with you?
I share this with you because ALL intimate relationships have these moments where the energy between two people gets disturbed, because his or your emotional stuff comes up.
And it’s so important to have the EMOTIONAL TENACITY, EMOTIONAL CAPACITY AND EMOTIONAL WILLINGNESS to go through that discomfort with your partner, for you both and sort it out instead of running away, withdrawing or completely disappearing…
Mature men have this capacity. Mature people, men and women, should develop this capacity in themselves.
How To Build Emotional Attraction
Helping YOU create this kind of emotional openness within yourself and with men, is going to be one result of the advanced video program, Building Emotional Attraction.
Here is what you will be learning in this advanced program:
(I have not taught this material in ANY of my self-study programs, not even in Leap Into Love!)
#1: Recognizing Blocks To Build Emotional Attraction
We look at all the ways we may be blocking emotional attraction from happening, developing and sustaining it with our men.
Through client examples and stories, mine included, you will learn effectively what NOT to do, when it comes to creating & maintaining emotional attraction.
#2: Diagnosing Emotional Intimacy (Or Lack Thereof)
You will also learn to spot the signs that emotional attraction is not building enough in your interactions with men.
This will take away the confusion and “What’s wrong with me?” kind of statements from your experiences, and help you become more objective with finding solutions that stick and tick.
#3: How To Build Emotional Attraction TOOLBOX
We’re going to give you a multitude of handy, practical tools that you can use straight away, on the man you’re on a date with or your husband of many years.
I am going to take you through the tools, help you practice them and turn you into a master attractor.
The tools will be a mixed bag, both for singles and women in relationships.
P.S. This is an ADVANCED, focused program, giving you specialized skills on how to build emotional attraction.
It assumes familiarity with my basic concepts such as self-love, leaning back, feminine energy, or understanding how men think and are different from us women.
If you’re new to my community and want to get up to speed beforehand, here are your small but POWERFUL intro resources to start with: