Here's something I've observed in my years as a love and relationship coach, about women's expectations for Valentine's Day:
While for some of us Valentine's Day can mean another day of adoration, being reassured by our man that we are loved, possibly some flowers and a romantic candlelight dinner… for some others, this day can be a PAINFUL reminder of what we ‘LACK' in our life.
It can be the lack of a loving partner, OR it can be the lack of love and passion and romance with the partner that we do have.
If you're married, engaged or in a relationship, it is my earnest wish for you this Valentine’s Day weekend that, amid all the hype and expectations of how a perfect V-Day ‘should' look, you can find some personal time off with your loved one to SLOW DOWN and truly connect with one another.
That you both appreciate each other for the things that matter most – time, personal presence, your support and commitment to each other.
I know that you have probably heard this “be present and appreciate what matters” advice many times before, but let me tell you, it is not that easy in this period, when every day you are just subconsciously loaded with expectations.
How My Own Expectations For Valentine's Day Almost Ruined My Day…
I remember this one time some years ago, when my husband got home early from work for V-Day and cooked me a nice dinner.
However, all I could feel was grumpy and tense about not getting any flowers or presents from him!
And I felt bad and ‘less than' in that precious moment, instead of feeling appreciation and enjoying what he DID DO for me.
So how about you allow yourself to BE SURPRISED in the moment, instead of having a specific expectation on how an ‘ideal' V-Day ‘should' look for you?
How would it feel like to allow him to express his love to you in HIS own unique way, even if it looks nowhere close to how you had imagined it would be like?
And with all those expectations dissolved (easier said than done, I know!), you will be truly open to what IS… than what it ‘should' be like…
Feels liberating, doesn't it?
I hope you feel, for Valentine's Day and always, down to the bottom of your toes – how loved you are, and what a blessing you live in.
Love,
Sami
P.S. My amazing, personally-trained ELEVATE supporting coach Katrina Small is facilitating a live, hands-on workshop on Saturday, February 12th 2022, on how to ‘Write Your Empowered Love Story.'
This will help you let go of expectations and nourish a healthy, positive mindset for the (still) new year ahead.
Click here to register for free – this workshop gets my highest recommendation!
