In this blog I am going to show you how to use your emotional attraction to repair your relationship.
If you're like most couples, you may think that physical attraction is the most important part in your romantic relationship.
But what happens when the physical attraction starts to fade?
Is that the end of your relationship? Well, that's where emotional attraction comes in and gives fun, meaning and longevity to long-term relationships and can help repair your relationship with your man.
Emotional attraction is the glue that keeps a romantic relationship together, even when the physical attraction is not as strong or fresh as it once was.
In fact, in my years of experience as an international relationship coach, focusing on building emotional attraction in order to repair a relationship that has started to feel flat is one of the biggest missing pieces of the puzzle in the health of so many romantic relationships and yet so often ignored.
Many women are simply not educated in the benefits of emotional attraction and hence not using it to repair their relationship and frankly, missing out on the power of this magical ingredient in all long-term relationships.
What is Emotional Attraction?
Emotional attraction is the connection that you feel with your man, based on shared values, beliefs, experiences and interests.
It's the feeling that you get when you're around someone who just “gets” you and understands you.
You feel comfortable being yourself around them, and you can talk about anything with them, without fear of judgment or rejection.
On that note, I want to invite you to take a moment and check in with yourself.
Would you say you have this feeling right now in your marriage or relationship?
The feeling that you and your man feel seen, heard and understood in your relationship or marriage?
I know I have this feeling with my husband Chris and it is the thing that keeps us going, through intense personal times like pregnancies, childbirth, sleepless nights with the babies and so on.
Without emotional attraction, our relationship would have just fallen apart because trust me, there are times in a romantic relationship or marriage where your level of patience will be tested and the physical attraction will be low due to factors outside of your control like sickness, babies, work stress etc.
This is where emotional attraction comes in and becomes the foundation of a healthy, romantic relationship that lasts.
Emotional attraction is different from physical attraction in that it's not based on someone's body appearance or physical characteristics.
It's based on the connection that you feel With a man or your man feels with you, on a deeper, Emotional level.
This connection is what keeps a relationship strong and resilient, even in the face of challenges and obstacles which everyday life will inevitably bring to all relationships.
For example, in early days of a relationship, you may feel like you constantly feel drawn physically to your partner.
However, as time passes, that physical attraction may start to settle down and this is where emotional attraction enters the picture.
Why Is Emotional Attraction Important In My Work?
In my work, as a leading international dating and relationship coach, I put a lot of emphasis on women learning about building emotional attraction with empowered, masculine men because I truly believe it's the foundation of every healthy relationship.
Without it, a relationship is likely to suffer from a lack of intimacy, depth, and meaning and not likely to survive challenging times.
So often, my clients tend to be celebrities or highly successful professional women and while they have learnt to pay attention to their looks and bodies, they still have to educate themselves on learning how to incorporate emotional attraction in their romantic relationships and marriages.
But once they do, they are truly unstoppable when it comes to the depth of relationships and attraction they can create and experience in their partnerships.
Here are some of the reasons why emotional attraction is so crucial and why you want to learn how to cultivate more of it in your partnership
1. It Helps You Grow Together As a couple
Emotional attraction is the key to growing together as a couple.
When you have a deep emotional connection with someone, you're more likely to be open and vulnerable with them.
This vulnerability allows you to share your hopes, dreams, and fears with your partner, which can help you both grow and develop as individuals.
So often when relationships fall apart, it is because the couple had stopped sharing with each other and growing emotionally together.
This does tend to happen for some of my high achieving clients where the work stress and business takes over the relationship.
Before you know, she and her man are starting to feel emotionally distant and moving in different directions because there's not enough emotional sharing and connection going on in the relationship.
2. It Keeps The Spark Alive In the bedroom
Physical attraction is important in a relationship, but it's not enough to keep the spark alive over the long term.
In fact, if I may be bold to say but my experience, both personally and as an experienced coach has shown that it is the deep interest in someone emotionally that will keep the spark alive in the bedroom too.
When this goes missing (and it often does), that's when you start having issues in the bedroom too.
The truth is that emotional attraction is what keeps a relationship exciting and interesting, even after years of being together and has the power to repair a failing relationship quickly.
When you have a strong emotional connection with a man, you're more likely to continue to learn and discover new things about each other, which can help keep the relationship fresh and exciting and keep things hot in the bedroom too.
For example, my client Serena who took my ‘Building Emotional Attraction Course for Women in Relationships’ as together with her partner for five years and had started to feel like the spark was fading.
They were still physically attracted to each other, but they weren't connecting on an emotional level.
Serena realized that they needed to work on their emotional attraction, so she used my tips in the program and implemented many positive changes in her relationship that I recommend inside my instantly downloadable video program, teaching women how to build emotional connection with their men.
One of these recommendations was to start asking her partner questions about his childhood and his dreams for the future.
It was amazing to watch how her man went from cold and quiet to opening up to Serena like a talkative little boy.
Before she knew it, the wine was flowing, the hot touch and flirting was back and she didn't even have to try hard to make anything happen.
Honestly, I am still sometimes amazed at the power of these small tweaks that make such a huge difference in the love lives of my clients.
I find that working on cultivating the skill of emotional attraction with your partner pays back much more than investing in a sexy lingerie.
3. It Leads To Meaningful Conversations
One of the most important aspects of emotional attraction is the ability to have deep, meaningful conversations with your partner. Cultivating this skill in your relationship will both fulfill you and him.
When you have a strong emotional connection with your man, you're more likely to be able to talk about the things that really matter, like your hopes, dreams, insecurities and fears.
These conversations can help you both gain a deeper understanding of each other and can help you grow as individuals and as a couple.
For example, my client Jenny and her partner had been together for three years and had always had a strong physical connection, but they didn't always have deep, meaningful conversations. This meant that Jenny's man often sought that emotional connection in his other friends.
Jenny realized that they needed to work on their emotional attraction but she did not know where and how to start. Hence, she dived into my instantly downloadable, ‘Building Emotional Attraction’ video training program where I give you easy to apply tricks, tools and strategies to start building emotional attraction and connection with your partner straight away.
Literally starting tonight or as soon as you dive in.
Jenny's progress has been phenomenal. Her man now would rather spend the evening talking to her vs. hanging out with the lads with beer and getting drunk. Her relationship and connection has reached new heights that she never thought was possible for her.
4. It Creates A Sense of Security & Irreplaceability
When you have a deep emotional connection with your man, you feel secure in your relationship with him. You know him, you get him and honestly you become irreplaceable to him.
You know that your partner understands you and accepts you for who you are, which can help you feel more confident and secure in your relationship.
This security can help you both feel more comfortable taking risks and trying new things, which can help keep your relationship strong and healthy.
What Happens When You Don't Have Emotional Attraction In Your Relationship?
Here are just a few of the problems that can arise and that you may be experiencing already in your relationship –
When you don't have emotional attraction in your relationship, it can lead to a number of issues.
1. You may feel like you're growing apart
Without emotional attraction, it's easy to start feeling like you're growing apart from your partner. You may start to feel like you and him are on different paths.
2) You and him may start searching for emotional connection elsewhere
What we don´t get in our own relationship, we seek outside.
If you or your man are missing emotional connection, there can be a tendency to look for that connection outside of your relationship.
3. The spark in the bedroom will die
When you have nothing to say to each other that is of value and interest, it is possible that this will start reflecting in the spark in the bedroom.
So many times, women try harder to lose weight and buy sexy clothes to revive the spark, without understanding that the true key to that spark lies in building emotional connection with their man.
When you do that, the rest just comes back.
If you're curious and excited to give building emotional attraction a try in your relationship, you can check out my ‘Building Emotional Attraction’ program by clicking here, to learn the skills, tools and strategies to deepen the emotional connection between you and your man.
In the program I lay out for you in detail the specific behaviours that KILL your man's attraction for you and the specific behaviours that BUILD it.
It's pretty simple to be honest when you implement it and it works on ALL healthy men.
Here is what you will be learning in this advanced program: Building Emotional Attraction With High Quality Men
(I have not taught this material in ANY of my self-study programs, not even in Leap Into Love or Elevate!)
Video Training #1: Recognizing Blocks To Emotional Attraction (90 mins)
Emotional Attraction is magic, and you’re going to be Diva Enchantress who practices this sorcery, leaving men feeling bewitched.
Jokes apart, Training #1 is all about understanding the differences between physical attraction, Emotional Attraction, chemistry and intimacy, when it comes to our men.
1) If you’re blocking Emotional Attraction from happening, developing, and sustaining – we are going to get to the bottom of it! Through client examples and stories, mine included, you will learn exactly what NOT to do when it comes to creating and maintaining emotional attraction.
2) You will also learn to spot the signs that Emotional Attraction is not building enough in your interactions with men, or your man.
This will take away the confusion and “What’s wrong with me?” kind of statements from your experiences, and help you become more objective with finding solutions that stick and tick.
Video Training #2:The Explosive Emotional Attraction Combo
After all the ‘DON’T DO’s of the previous part, Training #2 is where I finally reveal how men bond and connect in a romantic context.
You will discover the 2 secret elements that allow Emotional Attraction to develop for him (one of them might surprise you!)
Practiced together and in the right amounts, these 2 explosive elements will be the glue that binds his heart to yours! And in this training, I teach you exactly how to do that and give you practical tools to implement each of the 2 elements.
Training #2 also includes a short but supremely powerful Guided Meditation experience that deeply touched the participants in the live edition of this program.
Video Training #3: How To Build Emotional Attraction TOOLBOX (90 mins)
You will have your hands full after this!
Training #3 carries on and builds upon the richness of Training #2, where we get deeper into a multitude of handy, practical tools that you can use straight away, on the man you’re on a date with or your husband of many years.
I take you through the tools, help you practice them, and turn you into a master attractor.
The two versions of the program (which you can choose after purchase) include many different, specialized Emotional Attraction tools for singles and women in relationships, respectively.
The recording of this training also includes a Q&A section, where I took up some great questions from the participants in the live edition. How I reply to these women just like you is extremely valuable to learn from!
My clients have told us that this stuff works like magic, even though it's not magic.
It is simply based on emotional intelligence and a keen understanding of how the male mind works and what it truly craves to experience inside a long-term relationship.
If you decide to invest in the program, I cannot wait to hear your results from it.
It is going to be single-handedly one of the best things you can ever do for your marriage or partnership. I know this for sure!
Dedicated to your success in love,
Sami xx
You get to keep the program for lifetime access and right now I am giving some incredible bonuses inside it as well. If you have any questions about the program, email us at support@samiwunder.com
P.S. This is an advanced, highly specific and practical program, giving you specialized skills on how to build emotional attraction with high quality men. You can choose if you want the singles track or the women in relationships track.
It assumes familiarity with my basic concepts such as self-love, leaning back, feminine energy, or understanding how men think and are different from us women.